When we think of the word settling, we often envision middle aged individuals getting married and buying a home with a white picket fence.
Tell me I’m wrong.
Settling is so much more, however. It’s truly all about your place in life and your journey along the way. I mean, let’s think about this for a second. There’s a lot of other ways you can just settle without getting married and buying a home.
Relationships, careers, friendships, even right up to your living situation.
Settling means comfort. Comfort is toxic.
If you want to blossom as an individual, you have to consistently find ways to blossom. You can’t do that if you’re settling! If you get all cozied up in this dorm like apartment of yours and never want to leave it until one day your landlord ends up selling the place from right under you and now you have no clue what to do, you have been settling. My guess is that you may also not be able to find something that you truly want to live in either because you got so comfortable.
Those toxic friendships that we know are toxic but still hold onto anyways because who has time to meet new friends? You do! You have time to meet new friends! It’s called networking, and people do it everyday.
You have to get yourself out of these situations, and the only way to do so is to get out of your comfort zone. It truly is a toxic place in life.
I reflect on this subject in my life often. I’ve been living in the same state for thirty years with the exception of some time spent in the Palm Beaches of south Florida. While I truly enjoy where I live regardless of what so many people may think of Connecticut, (no, we’re not all rich snobs who drive around in Range Rovers and play croquet at country clubs) I often think about if I too have been settling.
With so many of my friends leaving the state for new experiences outside of the region, I will often pause and look at a map and ask myself what’s next for me. If the world is your oyster, you should go conquer it! We’re not here forever.
I’ve taken the leap to explore just what is the next stop for me, working aggressively at a savings plan designed to get me to the destination I wish to be in within two years.
Did you catch that? “I wish to be in”. That’s right, if you want to design a life you truly wish to live, you cannot let others decide your fate for you. That’s also called settling! I’m no stranger to this, and now I am working on a strategy that revolves around the life I want to create for myself going forward.
You don’t have time to settle. The clock is ticking.
Your life is a journey, one that you are creating for yourself. Don’t let your passions take a backseat just because you’re comfortable where you are in life at this very moment. We have to consistently evolve if we want to blossom.